by
Omowale Adewale
FORMS OF BLACK MASCULINITY
Former
running back star
of the NFL Seattle
Seahawks Marshawn
Lynch appeared in
a recent televised interview. During his
reminiscence, he motions his hands as
if brought back to his pre-retirement
football days
charging through the line sweeping through opposing defenders "over and over
and over".
Lynch explains,
"if you run through a motherfucker's
face you don't have to worry about him anymore."
As
a fighter of multiple disciplines, that's a
motto and strategy I'm well familiar with. I've
had this articulated
to me and I've passed this on to men
as a form of
self-defense. If you're out with a lover
and a large man confronts you in an aggressive or challenging manner,
you need to strike first, fast and as often as necessary. At a B.B.
Kings some years ago, a large drunk man
possessing 50lbs+ over me attempted to barrel
his way through a crowd. Stumbling into me with his solid frame he met me
pushing him
back. The crowd blew open in a circle and everyone's faces filled with fear and shock. The
large man motioned as to apologize and
left. Still belligerently engaged, not him but me, I was poised to
fight this man who was too intoxicated to know what was going on.
I
often relive a particular summer night
in a NYC club where I watched with anger, disgust and intrigue a pair
of guys
belittle and place at the mercy another black man in front of his
lady friend. It was loud and I was maybe five
or seven
yards away. The bullies seemed
very irate with the male friend
and physically threatening with their posture and gestures they
made with their mouths. They were not above average height, but they
were quite muscular and stocky.
The woman, a natural black beauty in
the middle of the scene in a quest to restore peace diplomatically
and of course, save her male friend. Years later,
I thought of her being in an unfair and losing situation, but
I also
wondered if
she could be considering her lover's
dignity by removing
herself from the argument.
After
the two men left, I watched
the couple with intense curiosity.
The woman consoled
the man. However, it
seemed to
only unnerve him as he abruptly
departs
some words in anger before
he scurries
off in the direction of the two men who
humiliated him. My guess, he summoned courage and went off to search for vengeance and redemption. How
he looks in her eyes is what's most significant, not her bravery and not her safety.
This was me
placing a black man's
dignity above a black woman's
security in my head.
This is
what masculinity typically
looks like.
Psychologist
and author Christopher Kilmartin described masculinity in his 1994
book “Masculine Self” as a set of role behaviors that men
perform. These three episodes, two from my life, are just
partial examples of what masculinity sometimes resembles in the black
community. These are only the most easy to identify. Marshawn
Lynch's stoic
and ambiguous responses under press conference contractual obligation
during the 2015 NFL season
was
interpreted by the black community as deviance
in Black
Power.
The fact that he donated his earnings
back to his low-income community in Oakland, Ca makes us herald him and
covet his black masculinity that much more
tightly. His wealth, physical power,
deviance of white institutions having
been fined $50,000 for not speaking to media, quiet demeanor
and non-answers to white media are
all masculine and black,
including, his belief that silencing
opposition is done through force whenever possible.
The
two from my life experience can often be classified as
ultra-masculine since they don't merely suggest male behavioral
roles, but act out aggression and violence. Aside from my life as a
fighter in the cage, I've had a constant slew of these masculine
episodes throughout my young life.
DEVELOPING MASCULINITY IN BLACK BOYS
I
grew up in Crown Heights, Brooklyn. Before I began practicing martial
arts at 18, I had numerous encounters with handguns, police officers,
street fights and some gang attacks. Growing up in Brooklyn, you
don't necessarily join a gang, so there's no organizational structure
but a name and maybe a leader. You're just running and moving with
childhood friends and having fun. This was brief, but wildly chaotic
to experience for any young person. Aside from innumerable fights in
Brooklyn, I could have been shot with a .25mm or .38mm in junior high
school, I've been threatened with one gun and carelessly in
possession of another. The one-time my childhood best-friend
described to me what happened during his night before was one of my
most scariest moments. Apparently, his friend detailed how he was
shooting at some guys on the roof of the library with a .9mm from
across another residential building. I gasped, “That was me!!”
The shooter was just playing around, but so was I with my BB gun.
Around high school, I began to look more dangerous so that's when the
police provided more interest in me. On my way to basketball practice
a Glock .45mm pointed at my chest by two cops made me numb, confused,
afraid and angry. Apparently, me and a teammate fit the description
of a recent crime.
As
dramatic as my life compares to others, it doesn't even scratch the
surface of what some other black boys have endured. I never saw the
inside of a jail cell or prison. Some black boys and men raised in
the ghetto would have jumped for this life.
Right
in the womb, masculinity is being molded, strengthened, influenced
and shaped and reshaped, and then you leave and the real mechanics
start teaching you how to act like a man. Whether they're observing
or listening and taking notes, men teach young boys that women are
the nurturers and the cooks. But, where the hell does it say that at?
I love nurturing my children and preparing meals. I detest being the
provider or even seen as the brute, but I often find myself being
pressed into these narrow spaces. It's like I'm dueling with gravity
trying to rid myself of these behavioral roles, but they're the only
ones that fit in society.
Scholar
and journalist C. P. Gause
explains “Black
masculinity is constituted and constructed in relation to other
gender identities. These constructions are based on how those
relations interface with social structures. Gender and masculinity
are performed on the basis of the circumstances and people that
surround us and how we view the way in which we are viewed.”
Masculinity
escapes me at times. Sometimes, I misidentify it, other times its
significance disappears completely.
And when I'm in rage, its lost on me entirely. In the most dangerous
way, I exhibit masculinity routinely. Even
when men believe we're not on the bottom
rung of machismo we're
low enough to know about each level. We
explain masculinity and sexism
away as if a reasonable argument
exists. We don't offer up criticism to our male friends who exhibit
sexism.
Had
my father not wanted me or struggled to be with me after his failed
marriage to my mother I might be hard as a rock and give two fucks
about my masculinity or how it struts the universe. As unimaginative
and stingy as Dad seemed, his kisses and hugs and words I love you
every time we departed were like natural depressants to a Brooklyn
hoodlum. It was the only chink in my masculine armor.
TODAY'S BLACK MASCULINITY EFFECTS ON BLACK GENDERS
Later
in adult life, there were singular moments that took sledgehammers to
my masculinity. I once watched Dr. Umar Johnson, a black psychologist
and speaker argue that “the LGBT community was used to take over
the black civil rights struggle.” In the same breath he lambasts,
“Where the hell was the LGBT community when Michael Brown was
murdered? Trayvon Martin?” Actually, on the front lines. Two of the
three founders of the Black Lives Matters movement are queer women.
All three founders are women. They've been challenging the system
since Trayvon Martin was murdered. There are thousands of LGBTQIA
members in the black movement. Their separate call for rights is
indicative of their specific mistreatment. Noting that their movement
utilized ours is noteworthy, but it does not equate to a government
plan.
Dr.
Johnson mentions that “the struggle of the LGBT community is to
practice a certain behavior”. This does not sound like a clinical
psychological answer. It's a petty smear. Having been in numerous
marches and protests and been bred in the black power struggle
through my mother's background as a former Black Panther, I've seen
the LGBT community when it was obvious and apparent that they wanted
their gender to be acknowledged. I watched a young black man, queer,
dressed in woman's cisgendered-clothing protest the death of Sean
Bell. Jasmine Abdullah (formerly Jasmine Richards) a black LGBT
activist with BLM was the first person convicted of felony
lynching or trying to de-arrest someone received actual jail time
for something so bogus and absurd. The fact that black cisgendered
speakers are floating around the country like talking heads finding
homosexuality more disturbing than their lack of support for real
black activists is hugely troubling for the entire black diaspora.
Bear
in mind, black boys needing to be mentally treated to essentially
become straight again is a critical element to Dr. Umar
Johnson's proposed school model. Even if LGBT was a mental
health condition, there is no way he and his politically backward
cohorts are equipped to heal black boys through their barrage of
degrading and homophobic insults. First, gays are 8.4 times more
likely to report attempt suicide and 5.9 times more likely to report
depression. Next to their parental rejection the incessant attack on
the LGBT community is dangerous for our black boys.
In
a riveting video that discusses the war on black boys, Dr. Johnson
encourages donations to his proposed school. He states, “I want
this school to be a blueprint, a role model to every other
independent African school in the world.” In NYC schools, there's
an estimated 40,000-100,000 gay students so just the idea that Dr.
Johnson will have the capacity to mentally treat gay
black children that are a significant percentage of the students in
one urban city is preposterous and poorly thought out. Black gay and
queer boys are having a lifetime of drama just going through school
struggling to just be human. I am hardly metaphysical, but there
isn't any amount of science that would make me abandon my brothers
because of whatever gender they find themselves comfortable. The very
notion of transforming genders without helping black boys cope within
their society that reduces their humanness is evil and
anti-blackness. How can you be for black boys and yet, have numerous
conditions for those who are yearning to be black and proud.
Recently,
I saw the funniest thing on Facebook.
A black boy (Jay Gunter/Jay Versace) lip-syncing Patty LaBelle, Teena
Marie, Anita Baker and Fantasia. I was in hysterical stitches. Then I
ventured into the comments section and saw black men creating more
black male division between other black boys because of their warped
sense of masculinity. On his same page of over 200,000 followers and
5,000 friends, Jay Gunter had a litany of cultural photos and
political videos strewn together beaming with black pride and power.
His blackness and gender identity at 18 was more broad and evolving
than most 40-year-olds I've met. There were no boundaries.
The
sadness is that Jay Gunter/Jay Versace has read the same comments and
countless memes determining what manhood is supposed to be and he's
not listed and or valued. Gunter posted one such meme on June 23 of
this year which disparaged his acting like a woman. Gunter was
forced to write a long message along with the meme sharing his
picture in disrespect, “I
have
no desire to be a woman at all and I never have.” I
was proud that the young man exclaimed, “Let people be themselves.
Stop trying to make them seem like a bad person because they aren't
doing what you're doing.” Right.
Not everyone is trying to behave in gender roles.
Most
of the world accepts masculinity as a biological function that is
inherently male and set with male sex gender roles and behaviors.
However, we see that the resources, power, and social actions and
history of sex have benefited men over women. Some of our evidence
include women being only 20% of the legislative branch (104/535
Congressional seats) while 50% of the US population, women earning
70% off of every US dollar in the workplace compared to men, and
women are generally the victim of the overwhelming majority of rapes
and murders between women and men. The manner in which masculinity
parades itself is not only aggressive and violent, greedy and selfish
and destructive and ruinous, it pretends to be absolutely necessary
to our societal function. The purpose of masculinity is to retain
power for men. Regardless of how many Serena Williams's, Rhonda
Rousey's, Laila Ali's or Becca Swansons's (world record holder for
the squat and deadlift) there are, masculinity will finagle an
explanation to favor men.
In
every nook and cranny of the world system there is inequity in the
form of sex, race, class, social status and species. We also
recognize that there is a particular explanation that determines that
unjust hierarchy. For species, humans explain we are the dominant
organism because it's based on our function of intelligence. In
regards to class, we may say it's ode to ambitiousness. When it comes
to sex and gender, how do we explain men having more power and
resources?
THE CREATION OF BLACK MASCULINITY IN THE US
Understanding
the root of masculinity, especially black masculinity in the U.S. can
be a lot easier to pinpoint where it began than how to rid ourselves
from it. There has been a 400-year punishment of black men being
forced to claim masculinity just as the name Tobey. I
acknowledge it will take time to expunge it from our souls. As
many times as black men use the movie Matrix
to explain corruption
and deception in
society,
it's surprising that no one realizes that male behavior or
masculinity
is
an act in a scene we play out. Problem is, scholars are scripting
the complexities of masculinity as if it were crystal clear to the
world that masculinity is a behavior when the world is already
conditioned to see masculinity as a sex trait.
Most
every popular black Hip-Hop artist or athlete is a reminder of black
masculinity. The most masculine are fighting opposing teams off-court
like a Carmelo Anthony, while emitting a quiet demeanor on the
basketball court. It is Adrien Broner, arrogantly engaged in loud,
brash costume buffoonery while displaying boxing skills at the center
of the ring. Our masculinity is in the public eye entertaining the
world. Even when we're on the streets hustling, our artists rap our
life, entertaining the whole globe. It's exhausting visiting the
world and being expected to wear jewelry, rap or dunk a basketball.
Embarking
on this topic of masculinity, I
wanted to present an honest piece for black men on masculinity and
make it widely accessible in terms of black
male readership but also palatable in
terms of reaching their sensibilities. Like all struggles with
change, there exists some hurt. If I can appeal to black men’s last
societal sheath of masculinity, dig
deep down and take it my brother.
Underneath
the tough exterior of black masculinity are centuries of pain. From
the kidnapping to the bondage of our people to the edge of the
coastline to the traumatic months-long journey, through the Middle
Passage and the arrival to the Americas where we were operating
against our own interests. The brutal torture endured throughout our
existence begins in the US around 400 years ago. A brief glimpse of
our enslavement commences with our ugly welcoming to the east coastal
shores of Jamestown, Virginia. Immediately led to auction blocks for
the commercialization of our naked human bodies we were further
stripped from our family and disconnected from our name, identity,
language, culture, and entire way of being. It is significant to
understand that what must be taken out must also be replaced with new
identity, language, culture and a brand new way of living.
Throughout
our experiences under slavery, it is important to understand that we
had to grasp hold onto every object that held hope. The replacements
during our enslavement included distaste and hate for our former
culture and the Africans that did not send sufficient resources and
assistance to rescue us. Those new forms of love included
Christianity and new cultural foods of pig feet and chitterlings,
more animal flesh and less plants of sweet potato and greens, and
western culture.
Our
existence had been ripe with dreams for freedom and many thoughtful
slave rebellions took place ceaselessly. They were led by men like
Denmark Vessey, Gabriel Prosser and Nat Turner. These men plotted
major slave revolts with hundreds to thousands of slaves and freemen
that were ultimately suppressed by the whites in power and those poor
working class whites at the lowest plateaus of freedom. Various
pathways towards our freedom were tried in order to avoid a life of
excruciating pain working in the hot sun and winter cold, including
suicide and the death of our babies.
From
the outset the black man was destined to learn who and what the white
man was to the power structure and his own relationship to that power
structure. Black men were mutilated, hanged and burned in front of
their sons, fathers, brothers, mothers, daughters and sisters. After
slavery or the Emancipation Proclamation of 1863, the horror did not
subside but about 12 or so years during the Reconstruction Era. In a
short amount of time, black men and women had rushed to own land
under the protection of the 13th, 14th and 15th
Constitution amendments which outlawed chattel slavery, provided
civil rights and voting rights, although, there were no enforcement
of these laws.
In
1877, federal troops left the south and gave safe entry and power
back to southern states after making amends for the Civil War. During
this time, the Klu Klux Klan sprung up and terrorized the black South
under Christianity and white supremacy. Many of the KKK membership
were officials of the state government, the courts and law
enforcement. The new black community went from owning land of their
former white slave masters and searching for jobs to giving property
right back to whites in exchange for low-paying sharecropping jobs,
which was virtually slavery. Sharecroppers, which were normally men,
were essentially serfs tied to the land with a strict duty with no
way out because they were under unfair contracts. Most blacks in the
South could not read. In instances where there were disputes between
landowners and sharecroppers, such as black men suggesting to leave
under federal law, they were either forced to work by groups of white
men or threatened at gun point, beaten or hanged. Many Black
families, especially men had migrated by the 1920's, still,
significant pockets of black populations stayed, being trapped
financially or mentally, because black families knew no other land
but the South.
The
KKK raged throughout the South well up into the 60's, an almost
90-year reign of terror that saw no justice with all white juries and
judges and no federal protection. Throughout this time of white
supremacy and terrorism black people were still using the
opportunities of freedom to build and develop for future generations.
While we were fighting at the polls and electing Republicans and
members of the Populist party of which some were black, black men and
women were becoming successful entrepreneurs.
A
black community in Rosewood, Florida sprung up a wealthy black town.
Tulsa, Oklahoma, a place where blacks had a 20-block foundation of
black wealth later deemed Black Wall Street created millions
that floated from business to business with almost no outside
influence. Both examples of black wealth and brilliance were
destroyed by white terrorists. The bombing of Black Wall Street in
1921 was the first time a plane had dropped bombs on any people of
the U.S. Hundreds were murdered and no one brought to justice.
These
struggles get recorded in the annals of history and in the temples of
future black minds. Black men have attempted fleeing from white
supremacy, working with it as sharecroppers in the cotton fields
after slavery, ignoring it and remaining numb, negotiating with it on
the basis of electoral politics and even constructing wealth away
from its power structure. At some point, the black man, deflected
from mirroring the white man's masculinity and began to develop his
own while using the exact same replica. Black
men's
masculinity has metamorphosed. We have
emboldened each day forward. Some
might say we gained adequate education and skills some time during
the early 1900's
and 1920's under philosophies of Booker T. Washington, Marcus
Garvey and W.E.B Dubois.
However, since we were still being lynched without fluctuation into
the thousands since the end of Reconstruction
I'd like to focus more on when the guns arrived in black hands
coupled with the ability and guts to use them.
We'll
settle around
the late 1950's to 1960's, although
Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. was known to have armed guards during the
mid-1950's.
Black
organizations like the Deacons for Defense and Student
Non-Violent Coordinating Committee (SNCC) which radically adopted a
message of self-defense during the mid-60’s were fed up with racial
attacks and social and political injustice. Individuals such as C. O.
Chinn and activist couple Mabel and Robert F. Williams were known to
be armed all the time, advocating for black self-defense. However,
none are more highly regarded than Malcolm X, who not only inspired
the most recent of black organizations to begin defending themselves,
but his 1959 Nation of Islam (NOI) televised presentation in New York
was the first time that a black leader had confidently and defiantly
addressed other black people in the company of various demographics.
Malcolm X spoke on the current conditions of white oppression and
black history in his speech initially scaring the black community
even though it was the east coast and not the deep South. Initially,
Elijah Muhammad, leader of the NOI was against Malcolm X speaking
live. As more black people became more emboldened, the messages and
rhetoric changed of the organizations. A sense of power was
developing in the black community. The new black man was evolving and
bringing with him a new set of roles and behaviors.
From
the corners of Brooklyn and Harlem black people clung to any group
with a foundation of masculinity; be it a formation in NOI,
Israelites, Nation of Gods and Earths or other uniform group found
especially in the populated pockets of urban centers, be it Chicago,
Oakland or Harlem. In addition to masculinity being a prerequisite,
the persuasion for black men was that the outfit be boisterous and
eloquent to captivate hearts and minds, historically rooted with
sacred scriptures and spirituality where one could attempt to predate
their existence, and they almost always shared the distinguishing
characteristics and intelligence of a Marcus Garvey, Malcolm X or
Huey P. Newton.
There
is virtually no other type of black movement that surfaces to become
the vanguard and swallows up our black people without these ideals.
Almost no organization attracts the black community without first
wooing the black man and none that are successful are devoid of
masculinity.
The
exceptions will not be found amongst notorious black gangs like the
Bloods, Crips and Black P Stones. They too, are all rooted in
masculinity, religious sanctity such as Islam or the Moorish Science
Temple, bearing symbols and the using hand signs or signals that are
completely immersed in history.
Without
question, all of these black
organizations are similar in where they
conjure up their masculinity. What
transferred from political organizations like the Black Panther Party
to the Crips was their
masculinity even after justice and
liberation was abandoned. Towards the
end and dissolution of the most attractive and useful organization to
black people of the day, the Black Panther Party had its own
contradictions while battling COINTELPRO, a destructive government program to annihilate the BPP.
The black women members of the BPP testify to that dual struggle. Black women Angela Davis, Tarika Lewis, Ericka Huggins while holding leadership positions battled sexism and the FBI.
Author
of “Black
Masculinity and the U.S. South From Uncle Tom to Gangsta” Riché
Richardson offers
an insightful gaze
into
how black masculinity bore out of white supremacist manifestations.
Richardson uses Huey
P. Newton's autobiography “Revolutionary Suicide” where Newton
praises his father's pride and “strong” black manhood” by
reminiscing on his father's “role as a family protector”. Newton
is fond of the thought that he lived in a
household where his mother never had to lift a finger. As
jarring as it is conveyed, this
misappropriation of masculinity as
noble and prideful as it seems, particularly
to
the black community, it
lends
itself to the false
pretentious notion that black masculinity equals black power because
of strong black manhood. Through
its
longevity in black
popular culture and
black liberators' organizing on this very basis black masculinity
ultimately reestablishes white antiquity.
The
black community all yearn to join black groups where black
masculinity contends with white power—a system in which the
foremost elite of the white race own a majority of the wealth,
maintain at the top of social hierarchy and operate a system that is
conducive to its maintenance. It is this system, that has a history
of systemic violence against the black community. The black community
draws its masculinity in defense against racial prejudice and severe
oppression in White America. It is critical to flush this point
further of
derivation of
masculinity for black men
who hold so dear their masculinity.
We
must first acknowledge the system of patriarchy which enables the
social constructive benefits of masculinity. Patriarchy is not just
the man being at the head of the table representing the family as the
leader or passing on the father's surname. Patriarchy also operates
outside and over the home. It is the society's institutions such as
governments, courts, and police departments, and financial and
religious foundations being dominated and run by men and to a large
extent for men. Patriarchy operates at the top of the hierarchy. It
is very social and political in action. Patriarchy essentially
regulates the power of sex roles and cisgendered masculinity exists
as the dominant role. None of this is biological. None of it born.
All of it bred. Patriarchy and masculinity is as made up as race and
class. However, us as black men cannot fathom that as we harness it
to rage and struggle under white supremacy.
In
contrast to White America’s patriarchal system which emigrated from
Europe, where the lineage always follows the male, in Africa there is
very much a matriarchal society especially prior to 15th century
black race slavery or precolonial black Africa. For much of
the United States’ existence, children followed the father in cases
of divorce or a runaway wife which might happen in an abusive
marriage. Children, and to a large extent wives were regarded as the
husband’s property. Senegalese historian Cheikh Anta Diop draws
contrast between patriarchy and the West African matriarchal society
in The Cultural Unity of Black Africa, “the wife does not cease to
belong to her own family and in no way becomes the chattel of the man
she has married.” Diop further explains, “she is separated
temporarily from it for the benefit of her husband and consequently
for the benefit of the [husband’s] family.” Born and bred in
America, it is easy to understand that black men would naturally
learn patriarchy and uphold patriarchy, albeit, we have never once
benefited from such a system in the US by placing black women under
his thumb. Yet, we know no other system.
We
often forget in America, that while black men were being lynched
throughout America, women were being emasculated as well, many times
with their children. Mary Turner, 8 months pregnant, hung, burned and
shot to death, with her newborn ripped from her stomach and stomped
to the ground after she vowed to bring the murderers of her husband
to justice. Sisters, Maggie (20) and Alma Howze (16) murdered while
both pregnant by the same white man they were accused of murdering.
Maggie was hit with a large wrench that knocked her teeth out and
across her head dying slow and painfully. Alma's newborn could be
heard moving during her funeral. The parents of the victim of which
they were accused of killing admitted they believed a white crazed
man killed their son. Laura Nelson was raped and murdered by an angry
mob. She was hung with her 15-year-old son.
For
many black men, these stories ignite pain and fire up anguish and
then we subsequently begin evaluating how to change the world we're
currently living in. I say we try losing our masculinity. This should
not be interpreted as, being passive, being silent, ignoring
self-defense, rejecting our pain or ceasing to be ourselves. However,
if being ourselves means we trump our black women and our children,
then yes, we must be reconditioned.
BLACK MASCULINITY IN WHITE SUPREMACY
Through
the last seven to eight years a black man named President Barack Obama has
been the leader of the country, and at the very same time we've seen
steady increases in police murder of black children and adults. Where
was his clear articulate voice against police murder? Not appeasement
of law enforcement, but outright chastisement police murder. I'll
never understand why in 2008 President Obama decided against words of
courage and empathy during his campaign and instead parted harsh
words to black youth to be decent prior to the Sean Bell murder
verdict. It was his only solemn advice bestowed upon a grieving New
York. I cried that day at work for a man that I had not known who was
celebrating getting married. And why had the President seven years
later not transform into the president every black voter clamored
for? He echoed the nation of racists in calling Baltimore's
heartbroken teens “thugs” after they responded in justifiable
anger and necessary rebellion as one of their peers was murdered with
no justice.
Because
the black masculinity that cloaks me entering the cage to fight a man
is the same that envelopes gangs to rumble for turf they don't own,
become Black Messiahs that provide no answers or represent
neocolonialist attitudes, conditions, and institutions that are the
replica of white masculinity. I
fear that the so-called woke, so-called scholar or so-called
revolutionary will miss much of how destructive we are to the exact
aims we strive for because they want to be strong. “The figure of
the “Strong Black Man” can be faulted for championing a stunted,
conservative, one-dimensional, and stridently heterosexual vision of
black masculinity that has little to do with the vibrant, virile,
visceral masculinities that are lived in the real world”, stated
Mark Anthony Neal, author and academic.
A
black president has managed to fill a dichotomous position of white
supremacy and black masculinity. He fully accepts and believes in
punishing black youth who go against the grain, even in totally
reasonable circumstances where they're murdered instantaneously, like
Rekia Boyd, Sandra Bland and Mike Brown. With the general election
ahead, I have no faith in this system. Mathematically it has had 100%
of subpar or entirely anti-black lives presidents.
SOLUTIONS TO BLACK MASCULINITY
Right
now, our experience needs more voices and champions, more recognition
and safe spaces for as many genders that are necessary. For me, I not
only reject leadership for myself, but I reject all male leadership,
including black male leadership. There is no reason why we should be
leading. If you can write reports for the movements, write
reports! If you can translate, cook, clean, perform, mobilize,
nurture and teach the babies, fall in line and play a worthy part. We
do not have to lead to be effective.
Look
at the front line and look online. Black women are in the streets for
us and we can't even defend them online. Look on youtube, a bunch of
armchair black men are theorizing solutions and performing mere
comical sketches. Frankly, a lot of my brothers are sounding
psychologically off their rocker. Women are only seen as more
depressed because depression and mental illness is based on reporting
and because “Men are less likely
to seek help for nearly every physical and mental health problem.”
Michael Addis, Researcher of behaviors.
I
still value blackness as a state of struggle against all forms of
oppression, including gender oppression, I just feel black women
should be the face of the movement regardless of how articulate some
guy sounds. Not as some consolation prize for putting up with black
men and our masculinity, but as a matter of actual strategy and
historical accuracy. Black women's leadership has been more than
supporting as secretaries, confidantes, mothers and nurturers. Black
women have also been at the forefront for us aside from our sheroes
Assata and Afeni Shakur to the Harriet Tubman and Sojourner Truth to
Shirley Chisholm and Fannie Lou Hamer and to recent leaders Cynthia
McKinney and Rosa Clemente and our founders of the Black Lives Matter
movement, Alicia Garza, Patrisse Cullors, and Opal Tometi.
Going
forward, if cisgendered black men are serious about brotherhood and
black justice and liberation we have to strip our masculinity little
by little and be our own critics and build our brotherhood brick by
brick. To be clear, this is only if you are about black justice
and liberation. I know your struggles, my brothers. I know the
personal difficulties of choosing a partner and providing for our
children. I know the obstacles we face in multiple courts that
in-house our injustice. I know police Stop and Frisk.
I know being stopped, frisked, arrested and jailed for nothing. I
know being criminalized as soon as you step in the room. Any
room. I know having to assure everyone you're not going to hurt them,
whether they know you're a trained fighter or not. I know the
difficulties of not wanting to cry or crying for a family member, a
friend, or just for some bullshit that makes no sense to simply
because we're men.
You
are always my closest friends. What I tell you, I tell no one else.
Every low point I've been at, a man has helped me out of that
depression. We have sensitivity, we are not just discussing sports,
women and what the cops did to us yesterday. We don't have to prove
anything, we just have to respect everything, particularly,
ourselves. We are respecting of all our genders who resemble
maleness.
We
are rededicating ourselves to black male development and black
brotherhood. If we need to place a moratorium on speaking to women in
urban cities to make them feel comfortable or anywhere we are
unwanted we are prepared to do that. Our attention is on black men
and how we leave the home, not on black women. We are focused on our
brotherhood, not on their sisterhood. We are nodding and lifting each
brother up. We are using constructive criticism wherever necessary.
If my brother has health issues, we are offering a myriad of health
solutions. We are defending each other in all spaces without
intimidating or patronizing each other. We are focused on becoming
critical thinkers. We are supportive to our black children and other
black children in our community. We are respecting black women's
space to dialogue and build themselves. We are not criticizing black
women on any of her features. The issues we have with black women who
we are intimate with will be handled in the best way possible. We are
already incredible, we are already awesome fathers and supporters. We
are trying to be better black men, but ultimately a better
brotherhood.
--
Omowale
Adewale is a kickboxer and mma fighter, certified in boxing training and vegan nutrition he works with young communities of color. A co-founder of Grassroots Artists MovEment
(G.A.ME), Wale is a hood mofo trying to rid himself of black
masculinity dedicating himself to black liberation and justice.
“Black
Masculinity” will release several volumes on the topic. If you have
questions or find spelling or grammatical errors email me at
omowale.adewale@gmail.com.
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